For the past year or so, I believed I should live everyday in the pursuit of happiness and that I should strive to make every situation happy, regardless of the circumstances. Because, what’s wrong with trying to be happy?
However, recently I’ve began to question whether we should aim for constant happiness. The reason being, I’ve found myself feeling worse trying to be happy all the time- because I can’t make every moment worth cartwheeling for (well, I can’t anyway, I’m sure some people can). Again, setting unrealistic expectations for myself.
What should we chase then?
I watched an inspiring TED video by Emily Esfahani, on why happiness isn’t the be-all and end-all. It gave me the answer I was in need of; we should aim to create meaning. According to Emily’s studies, living life meaningfully leads to more fulfilment than focusing solely on happiness.
Think about how you can bring meaning to your relationships, work and all that you do.
To create meaning, we have to add value to what we do and make it mean something to us. Here are ways we can do this:
- Listen👂– actually listen to what people say to you and interpret it, you don’t always need to jump in with an opinion.
- Take notice of your environment👀– be aware of the space you’re in, appreciate it.
- Stand up for your beliefs💥– fill your beliefs with passion and unapologetically hold them.
- Self- reflect🙏– no one persons’ experience of life will be the same, recognise yours and how you have got to where you are now, value your changes.
- Believe in yourself🐝– remember, you are only bound by the limits you set yourself. Have faith in yourself and create what you want.
Surprisingly, chasing happiness is not all it’s cracked out to be. Following what makes you feel fulfilled, on the other hand, is.