A phrase I often mutter to myself in a heated rush to get out the house on time, when I forget the one thing I needed or bump into an unexpcted set back.
Well I believe there’s a very simple way to correct this phrase and alleviate the frustration of ‘not having time’.
Instead of ‘I don’t have time for this’, say ‘I didn’t make time for this’.
This simple change of statement triggers us to self-reflect, and question how our own actions have resulted in us ‘not having time’ as opposed to blaming our environment.
It encourages you to question how YOU could have prepared for the current situation differently, which when practiced can make mornings, and life in general, run smoother.
I don’t usually like to make a thing of allocating one specific day of the year to a good cause or campaign, but I feel today is a good excuse to shout out the women that inspire me. It goes without saying that my mum, grandma and best friends are positive influences and inspirations in my life, so here are the females who inspire me and probably don’t know it/ never will.
Pauline Narvas: Me and Paw worked together a few years back. She was always a smiley, positive character who never let the perils of retail (and there can be a few at times) get her down. But I remember her coming into work one day crying, Pauline, crying? She was going through a difficult time to say the least and I couldn’t have imagined how she would bounce back. She took to the gym and is now actual body goals, she is CONSTANTLY working with other women all over the country with Code First: Girls. She’s just so sweet and positive I love her. It’s women like her that run the world.
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People would bully me for talking about a website I built when I was 8. Today I'm empowering ladies to be unapologetically "nerdy". After all, the Future Is Female. ✨#PressForProgress _ I turned all the "you're such a wannabe, a tomboy, a nerd" comments from years ago into something positive: an empowering community of girl powa developing things together (because they are inventors, creatives and belong in STEM), multiple freelance gigs, a part-time job, a flourishing hobby and a thing to speak about at keynotes! 🤷🏻♀️😉 Guess all I can say now is thank you for the setbacks; I'm BETTER because of them. – So hey, I'm Pauline, and I'm a developer, a techie, a lifter, an athlete, a STEM student, an ambassador, a teacher, a communicator and whatever-the-hell-I-want-to-be. 💪🏻 _ Today I'm celebrating #InternationalWomensDay with the thought in mind: if you want to be x, y, z, you be x, y, z. Don't ever let anyone tell you that you can't be anything because of your gender, your ethnicity or your background. – ✏️ "Turns out I can be both." [LINK IN THE BIO] – #IWD2018 #internationalwomensday #girlpower #thefutureisfemale #tech #digital #womeninstem #codefirstgirls #shefcodefirst #sheffielduni #shefunilife #pawlean #shecandoboth
Maya Jama: Need I say more? She’s beautiful inside and out, she’s absolutely smashing her career and is so humble (my favourite trait in any celeb). I don’t know what else to say really she’s Maya Jama.
Frankie Clarke: Me and Frankie briefly know each other, but through social media she shares truly moving concepts and ideas, making me feel like I know her more than I do. She’s an articulate writer and thinker. She conceptualises those thoughts we sometimes can’t even understand ourselves into words- that’s talent. Her posts are so provoking and have encouraged me to focus much more on self-love, which I now believe is vital super- power we all should practice, male or female.
Laceinne/the.pinkcoconut: I don’t actually know her real name but they’re her IG handles. She’s an holistic lifestyle coach and a plant based vegan who’s not afraid to show it. She’s so caring for others, her community and the world. The things her and her partner do are just amazing. She has made me think so much more about what I put in my body and what I do for it. Health really is wealth and boy she is a walking epitome of health.
Peace and love ❤
When we stay nice and cozy in our comfort zone, we aren’t experiencing all that life has to offer and can miss out on opportunities- ones that you’ll never know exist until you find them.
The most rewarding moments I’ve experienced have been the moments where I asked that question I was nervous to ask, when I forced myself to do something I’m not totally sure of or even got up that bit earlier to squeeze in a morning gym session.
Or that time I jumped out a plane (despite saying I’d never do it).
Want to do something? Can you do it?
That uncomfortable feeling is good.
If you want growth, you must push yourself out of the comfort zone. Just like training, if you want to build muscle, you must increase resistance. 💪🏼
Why is it we struggle to embrace the inevitable? Of course, I’m talking about change.
I like to think of change as a curse and a blessing in life- you never know what’s round the corner.
Sometimes, we find it hard to accept new people, new situations and the hardest of all- to let go of the old stuff (I’m pretty bad for this). But we can’t fight it and even if we do, it comes at the expense of our energy and most importantly, our time.
You can’t ever really prepare for what’s coming, how could you? After all, the future only exists in your head *mind blown* but there are ways we can handle change better:
- Never be complacent🛌: don’t get so comfortable in a situation and think its there to stay, because it might not.
- Awareness👁: Simply acknowledging that nothing is concrete makes you so much more accepting when life throws unexpected things your way.
As the old saying goes, there’s only two things in life we can be sure of; death and taxes (lol) but I say their is a third- change.
For the past year or so, I believed I should live everyday in the pursuit of happiness and that I should strive to make every situation happy, regardless of the circumstances. Because, what’s wrong with trying to be happy?
However, recently I’ve began to question whether we should aim for constant happiness. The reason being, I’ve found myself feeling worse trying to be happy all the time- because I can’t make every moment worth cartwheeling for (well, I can’t anyway, I’m sure some people can). Again, setting unrealistic expectations for myself.
What should we chase then?
I watched an inspiring TED video by Emily Esfahani, on why happiness isn’t the be-all and end-all. It gave me the answer I was in need of; we should aim to create meaning. According to Emily’s studies, living life meaningfully leads to more fulfilment than focusing solely on happiness.
Think about how you can bring meaning to your relationships, work and all that you do.
To create meaning, we have to add value to what we do and make it mean something to us. Here are ways we can do this:
- Listen👂– actually listen to what people say to you and interpret it, you don’t always need to jump in with an opinion.
- Take notice of your environment👀– be aware of the space you’re in, appreciate it.
- Stand up for your beliefs💥– fill your beliefs with passion and unapologetically hold them.
- Self- reflect🙏– no one persons’ experience of life will be the same, recognise yours and how you have got to where you are now, value your changes.
- Believe in yourself🐝– remember, you are only bound by the limits you set yourself. Have faith in yourself and create what you want.
Surprisingly, chasing happiness is not all it’s cracked out to be. Following what makes you feel fulfilled, on the other hand, is.