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Your opinion is not my business

…and my opinion is not yours.

Thought: 💭

Liberation is: freeing your mind of needless opinions-including some of your own.

Why should my opinion matter to you? It shouldn’t.

Why should your opinion matter to me? It shouldn’t.

Insecurity is probably one of the most significant factors in being concerned with others people’s views of yourself.

It’s taken me years to relieve myself of insecurities, freeing my mind of fear of judgement and judging others myself (admittedly, I’m still guilty of this at times).

But when you accept yourself wholly and f*** what anyone thinks- life’s considerably easier.

Might I add, this doesn’t mean we should have no consideration for people’s feelings etc – it just means their judgement shouldn’t restrict us.

Action: 🗣

When people needlessly share their opinion of you, to you, or more likely, to someone else, remind yourself it’s not your business to care what they think.

Or if you carelessly blurt out your views about someone, remind yourself, your opinion is not their business- so don’t try to make it.

Conclusion: ✍

We all naturally form opinions, but we don’t always need to share it or even delve too deeply into our minds to create them.

“Expectations are the root of all heartache” ~ William Shakespeare 

Yep. They really are.

Thought 💭:

Think of all the things that have made you sad in the past, and why?

A majority of the time, we feel dissatisfied because our expectations are not met, whether we are conscious of them or not.

For example, a friend may upset you, because their behaviour does not conform to how you would like it to, or a day out may not go to plan, not conforming to how you wanted the day to go.

In all honesty, I’m guilty of basing my life around unrealistic expectations. I often set out ideals for things, people, and situations and when they are not met, I feel dissatisfied and frustrated.

Action 🗣:

There are two ways of dealing with with our expectations. 

1: Achieve them – if your goals/expectations ARE realistic, make the necessary changes to achieve them. I.e., wanting to be on time-get up earlier, organise the things you need in advance to avoid being late.

If not ⬇️

2: Change them – If what you want to happen   is not tangible, or unrealistic, change what you expect. I.e. someone not behaving how you like- you can’t change people, so change your what you EXPECT of people. Maybe they aren’t who you think they are, and maybe that’s not a bad thing. 

Conclusion 📩:

When we alter our ideals, we are more open to change and so avoid ‘heartache’. This helps eliminate negative thoughts, thus making us happier. 🤗