“Expectations are the root of all heartache” ~ William Shakespeare 

Yep. They really are.

Thought 💭:

Think of all the things that have made you sad in the past, and why?

A majority of the time, we feel dissatisfied because our expectations are not met, whether we are conscious of them or not.

For example, a friend may upset you, because their behaviour does not conform to how you would like it to, or a day out may not go to plan, not conforming to how you wanted the day to go.

In all honesty, I’m guilty of basing my life around unrealistic expectations. I often set out ideals for things, people, and situations and when they are not met, I feel dissatisfied and frustrated.

Action 🗣:

There are two ways of dealing with with our expectations. 

1: Achieve them – if your goals/expectations ARE realistic, make the necessary changes to achieve them. I.e., wanting to be on time-get up earlier, organise the things you need in advance to avoid being late.

If not ⬇️

2: Change them – If what you want to happen   is not tangible, or unrealistic, change what you expect. I.e. someone not behaving how you like- you can’t change people, so change your what you EXPECT of people. Maybe they aren’t who you think they are, and maybe that’s not a bad thing. 

Conclusion 📩:

When we alter our ideals, we are more open to change and so avoid ‘heartache’. This helps eliminate negative thoughts, thus making us happier. 🤗

Are we really that social?

Thought 💭: 

The constant inundation of visuals and statuses from friends and followers via social media platforms like Instagram, Snapchat and Facebook can be deceiving. They trick us into believing we are social creatures, more so than the the previous generation. However recently, I have found this is not true.

Social media changes us *duh* stating the obvious I know.

I think it makes us lazy. We seem to think because we see a friends’ story or most recent post we know how they are. We are less inclined to give them a call, send a message and have a chat, because, why would you need to? They’re doing just fine!

Call me old-school, but I really think this a step backwards socially.

I’m not saying call your followers. Just keep in touch with people you care about, don’t just watch their stories go by.

Action📲:

Sign out of one of your most used social media accounts (mine’s Instagram, as you can see ⬇️), for a day maybe? 

Would you feel disconnected, out of the loop? If so, is that how it should be? 

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Not proud to say I use most of my data on IG 🙈 but I’m working on it…

Conclusion 📩:

Try giving your friends/family a call that you don’t usually. Or if that’s too much, just a text. Let’s go back to being human- talk.